10 Commandments for Enjoying Life
SUMMARY
Do you find that you're not getting the enjoyment out of life you were hoping for?
Today, I want to take you through my 10 commandments for enjoying your life.
1. Thou shalt be you.
2. Thou shalt not perform for the approval of others.
3. Thou shalt not manage your emotions.
4. Thou shalt set boundaries.
5. Thou shalt keep learning.
6. Thou shalt not be perfect.
7. Thou shalt ask for help.
8. Thou shalt not live in the past.
9. Thou shalt share your gifts and talents.
10. Thou shalt not compare yourself to others.
What we are going to do together over the next few weeks is go through each of these to unpack them so that you can have some practical understanding and strategies to be able to use these ten commandments in your life.
TRANSCRIPT
Do you find that you're not getting the enjoyment out of life you were hoping for?
Well, I've been there so I understand where you are at. So, what I want to do over the next few weeks is to take you on a journey that shows you what you can do differently so that the rest of your life is the best part of your life.
Today, I want to take you through my 10 commandments for enjoying your life.
For a lot of my life, I wasn't enjoying it. In fact, that led to people around me not enjoying being around me as well.
As someone who works with people all around the world as a coach and an educator, I've found that not just in my life but in the lives of everybody that I meet, there are certain things that we do that hold us back from having the life that we could have.
Over our time together, I've talked about all things Emotional Intelligence, Social Intelligence, and Human Behaviour, using Neuroscience and Positive Psychology.
What I decided to do was to start a new series where I put together the top 10 things that I teach, and that I use myself, to help me to take control of my life by looking inwardly at the roadblocks that I'm putting up. Then I'll show what you I now do differently to get the life that I want.
I learned many years ago that it's not up to everybody else to make me happy. That's my choice. That's my responsibility.
It's not about the external circumstances that are going on in my world. It's what I make the mean and how I navigate them.
So, let's start out this week by laying out my ten commandments without going too deep into them. In the following weeks, I'll unpack each of them and go deeper and give you strategies you can implement on the spot.
The 10 Commandments for Enjoying Your Life
1. Thou shalt be you.
Trying to be everybody else, and being who you're not, is exhausting.
2. Thou shalt not perform for the approval of others.
This has been a major challenge for many people I've worked with and it was also a big part of my life. Everything that I did was for others. It's time to operate out of self-approval.
3. Thou shalt not manage your emotions.
I have talked to you about this many times. It's all about accepting your emotions and navigating them in a healthy way.
4. Thou shalt set boundaries.
What happens in your life, and how you let others interact with you, is up to you. Setting boundaries and keeping them is a major component in having an enjoyable life.
5. Thou shalt keep learning.
I believe you're either green and growing or ripe and rotting. In my case, I'll be a continual learner until the day I die. Everything that I do teaches me something. The people I allow to speak into my life, and my own experiences, are my greatest teachers.
6. Thou shalt not be perfect.
Perfection is never going to be the goal. It's not somewhere that you can arrive at. There's only ever been one perfect person on the planet and they crucified Him. So, just do your best. Celebrate your progress instead of trying to be perfect.
7. Thou shalt ask for help.
There have been many times in my life when I just went in alone; I toughed it out, I grinned and bared it. I took on some dangerous learnings as far as my health was concerned. Asking for help is a strength; it's not a weakness.
8. Thou shalt not live in the past.
The past is the past. It's something that's happened, and there are plenty of things you can learn from it. It's okay to have a short trip to the past to learn some things and to remember to celebrate. However, it's not the place to live. The place to live is "right now".
9. Thou shalt share your gifts and talents.
I learned many years ago that what I know, who I am, and the gifts and the talents that I have, are not for me; they're for others. They're there as a gift I've been given to share whilst here on this earth.
10. Thou shalt not compare yourself to others.
Every single person on this planet is a unique human being. Unique with their gifts, talents, strengths, and areas for development. Comparing myself to others was something that gave me a reason to feel bad about myself. The only person I compare myself to these days is the best version of me that I could be.
Comparison is a dream stealer; it can make you feel superior or inferior and affect your happiness.
So, there you have my ten commandments for having a much more enjoyable life.
What we are going to do together over the next few weeks is go through each of these to unpack them so that you can have some practical understanding and strategies to be able to use these ten commandments in your life.
Well, that's it for me for another week. Join me again next week as we get into these ten commandments and chunk them down.
Enjoy having a week being you. You deserve it.
